When life doesn’t make sense yet

Hello,

I am sure you have all felt those moments in life when it feels as though things don’t add up. In your head, you have everything mapped out and when plans shift, doors close, or progress feels slower than expected it feels as though your entire world has been turned upside down. I know I surely have felt that!

In those moments, it’s easy to assume something has gone wrong, and when I was in my early thirties it was difficult to not get bogged down in that thought, and the biggest question — why? Why had this happened to me? Why were things not working out as I planned? Why does this not make sense?

A victim mentality wouldn't you agree? But at the time, I didn't realise that. However, the older I got, and the more I listened to how others spoke to themselves, the more I heard it. That 'woe is me' thinking that I didn't want to be a part of. Slowly I remembered something I instinctively knew as a child and had been supported by my parents — what is meant for you will not go past you. What will be, will be.

Now, in my forties, this is the belief that steadies me most: life isn’t happening to us, it’s unfolding for us. Even when we can’t see how yet. Especially when we can’t.

I’ve learned not to rush meaning. Some understanding only arrives with time, perspective, and a softened heart. What feels confusing now often becomes clear later, in ways we couldn’t have imagined at the start. I don't get hung up on 'why?' any more, because I'm not meant to know why, I just need to accept that it's not the right time for my plan and as long as I am taking small and steady steps towards my dreams, that is all that matters.

If you’re in a season of not knowing, you’re not behind. You’re in the middle of becoming.

Trust that this moment has something to offer you, even if it hasn’t revealed itself yet. You don't need to know what it is or why, you just need to trust the journey you are on.

With much love and reassurance,  Fiona. xx